Thanks to one man who disregarded orders and jumped into action, my family wasn’t one of the over 1500 who lost their homes in the Valley fire last month. Read More
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I hate to break it to you, but your big idea is worthless.
You know, that idea you’ve had for a book, or business, or product. The one you’ve talked about for years. The one your family/friends/coworkers are sick of hearing about. Yeah, that one.
Now, it’s not worthless because it’s a bad idea. It’s actually pretty cool.
And it’s not worthless because you are incapable of pulling it off. You actually have a decent chance.
It’s worthless because it’s just an idea. Read More
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When I was in high school I wanted to grow up to be James Bond.
Well, James Bond the businessman: In shape, sharply dressed, and pulling up to meet clients in an exotic sports car.
Forty-five days ago the last piece of my boyhood dream came true, I bought that car.
The whole experience of buying was incredible and turning heads on Las Vegas Boulevard was even better. This was a reward for my hard work. I had finally made it.
I’ve owned the car for six weeks and it’s been in the shop half the time. Today a tow truck arrived to haul it away yet again. The dealer can’t tell me what is wrong, let alone when my car will return home. Read More
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I have it all figured out. I know the ingredients in the secret sauce.
At least I have it figured out for me anyway. At least for now.
At 40 years old, I finally think I know what is best for me. I have found what seems to work best for my fitness and nutrition. I know what seems to be the best way to protect myself. A few months back, I made a list of skills that I think a human should be able to do. It included things that I am already skilled at, fighting and physical training. It also included things I wanted to learn like playing an instrument and hunting and butchering an animal.
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It felt like a punch to my gut.
Being told you haven’t put in enough work to be successful is a heart-breaker. Especially when it’s true …
As a Forging Leaders coach I have a commitment to write articles for the website. I’ve had some challenges and up till now, none of my work has made the cut.
Each week I meet with Jeremiah (Forging Leaders founder, and my mentor), to review what I’ve written and to get feedback.
At our last meeting Jeremiah gave me critical feedback on a couple articles. He said I explained too much of the story and left nothing for the reader to figure out. In his own way, he told me my articles are long and boring and that I needed to start from scratch. Read More
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You are being lied to.
We all have beliefs that hold us back and keep us from building truly remarkable lives. I call these limiting beliefs.
We pick up some limiting beliefs as children: I’m not a good reader, I’m not very smart, I don’t have a good memory, I’m not a good artist, I’m not pretty.
We pick up some limiting beliefs as adults: I don’t deserve to be loved, I could never quit this job and find something better, I can’t dance, I’m a fraud and it’s just a matter of time before my boss/co-workers/family/friends figure it out.
These beliefs are usually developed over time as we experience failures or emotional trauma. Often, we learn them from other people telling us who we are, and what we can and cannot do.
There are three especially destructive limiting beliefs I’ve noticed in just about every client I’ve coached over the last six years.
I call these the three big lies. Read More
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Turning your passion into a business isn’t easy, but it can be done.
I have this conversation with aspiring entrepreneurs all the time. They show up at our meeting with a lot of energy and a lot of hope. What they don’t have is a lot of clarity about how to get started, or even if it’s an idea worth pursuing. Here are six questions I ask them in order to help them get clarity on both. Read More
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“In order for man to succeed in life, God provided him with two means, education and physical activity. Not separately, one for the soul and the other for the body, but for the two together. With these two means, man can attain perfection.” ~ Plato
I am constantly reminded in my own life how connected my mind and body are. As my days fill up with work and other stuff, I tend to sacrifice my workouts. See, much of my work, writing, respond to emails, and coaching clients are quantifiable tasks. It’s easy to see if I’ve completed them or not. Skipping a workout, on the other hand, has no immediate visible repercussions.
What I find though, is that instead of my life getting less frantic when I skip my workouts, it becomes more frantic. Read More
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When I got my first coaching client in 2009, I had no idea that leadership coaching would turn into a career. But just last week, I was calculating my coaching hours and I found that I have coached over 5000 hours in the last six years. That got me wondering what are the most common, powerful lessons clients have learned in our sessions. Luckily, I write those down. At the end of each meeting, I ask each client to identify the most powerful lesson or idea from that meeting. I boiled over 3000 key learnings down to these:
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I don’t want to help my kids anymore.
I used to but now I’m over it.
A few months ago, I was on a bike ride with my two oldest (eleven and nine) and stopped by the creek to hangout and rest. They were tossing rocks and arguing about something or other. Annoyed at the bickering, I bet them $5 that they couldn’t get across the creek and back without getting their feet wet.
“Deal,” they said. Read More
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